The hardest thing is to remember to see this purging and healing of old wounds, stroking of old scars with a forgiving hand, as something to be joyful about, because it lifts us into a more authentic version of our self, our Soul. But we cannot just ignore the hurt, the pain. We must give it due recognition, not stuff it away.
The journey of love takes us in and out of relationship with others, while always bringing us into deeper relationship with the Divine force within. When single we do our work alone, releasing, forgiving, healing. We may think we have cleared all that was holding us back, until we step into a new relationship and find that there is more, it cuts deeper, reflects even more authentically so that you cannot mistake your own self within the mirror that other offers. You cannot escape the challenge to walk naked, as Persephone, into your own darkness, trying your best to avoid falling into victimhood and self destructive tendencies.
My own challenges are many, even now! Abandonment and rejection, self loathing, jealousy, that deep need to be validated in love by another. The difference now is that I recognise each of these as they appear. I know their roots, their baggage. And I know that when something is missing in me it is not up to another to fill that void. It is up to me to plunge in, to sit, to listen, to howl at the moon, and then to find the gift I need hidden in the darkness. And then, the yearning to merge with that other Soul at the deepest level, is one step closer.
True love comes by doing this healing, clearing, cleansing work that can only happen on the inside. You can only reach out and merge with your loved ones by going within. It sounds paradoxical, but we are always only reaching within.
The outer world is an illusion. Our connection with another seems to be physical, available in the material world alone. But the outer expression is the co-creation, the final manifestation, not the beginning and not the truth of who you both are.
We are so caught up in this view that is totally back to front and inside out. We think we go outwards to meet someone, and then when we encounter a trigger or fear or hurt, we go inwards.
The work we do on self, is the how of love. It is an act of self love and without it we cannot go beyond the wounds of the ego and experience the expansive richness of who we truly are.
Until we go beyond the wounds, finding unification with the Soul, the real self, we will never experience peace, harmony and joy, which is the ultimate devotion. You become so lost in devotion to other, (whether you think this is another person or whether you realise that other is just the divine in form, you in another body), that you surrender to that devotion and merge soul to soul in sacred union.
Human love in its highest vibration is a co-creation between two souls in an energetic state of devotion to each other. This is not egoic devotion where any sort of hierarchy plays out. It holds no conditions or judgement. It is a promise, a commitment to the divinity shining from within each person, to see other as a unique individual AND as the ONE you always sought outside of yourself, which is actually the ONE we are all a part of.
This embracing of other as one, raises the frequency of Souls in a way that cannot be achieved alone. The masculine and feminine (no matter the genders of the people involved) merges into more than each can be alone.
We exist in and with each other. The outer physical manifestation of this is two bodies that join to complete the circle of union throughout all dimensions.
The original attraction is not to physical form. It comes through an alignment of two frequencies singing in harmony, so recognition occurs, which becomes attraction at the physical level. You ‘see’ someone differently when you resonate at the same frequency, sing the same song. The notes you hear on the breeze that draw you forwards are what draws your realities together.
Even when you have known someone for most of your life, indicating some alignment of frequency (like singing the same song but in a different pitch), attraction falls into unified connection when true harmonic resonance is reached, creating from that point, a whole new song.
This song will be worked on together to create the perfect notes, an agreed upon tune, and words, rhythm and combination of instruments, keys, chords. And so it will not always be in harmony, because perfect harmony is only reached by each co-creator listening to and seeing, so deeply, their reflection in the mirror of other, and taking on board where they need to adjust to realign, to heal a wound.
This doesn’t mean you are alone in your healing. That other, in compassion, can be with you throughout that dark journey, holding your hand, being the light when you are lost, lifting you up when you need their strength, laughing with you to break tension, embracing you at the deepest core of that wounding and kissing the scars away. And you can be that gift to them. You must both be as committed to your perfect Soul song as each other, both willing to be so completely naked that you cannot avoid what needs to heal to be able to fall deeper into that devotion, that unconditional love, that heavenly sea of complete wholeness we all seek to drown in.
You will never meet this love by pushing yourself to seek it out in the world. You will align with it when you hear the one singing in harmony with you, the one matching where you are on the journey, the one complementing you by bringing opposites into union and shared pain into healing. You will always attract yourself. So, the person you align with holds your wounds AND the help you need to heal them. But this person is the illusionary body of your Soul joining with another Soul. And you find that Soul only ever, within.
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