My book, Reclaiming Lost Energy is now available as a pdf Ebook in my shop. This is Chapter 1.
I often get what I refer to as a ‘download’ of information and energy in bed at night. I think of them as neural pathways opening to reveal new information from the vast databank that is available to all, if we were just aware enough to allow it. Some people call this the Akash and have rituals they use to access it.
I have found that many people access this pool of knowledge without knowing what they are doing. I don’t think rituals are necessary, although to get the clearest information it helps to be open to receiving it and not blocking any ‘downloads’ by telling yourself you are just making it up.
People are far more magical than they believe!
One such night, I got a significant download of information regarding energy. One part that was very interesting related to cutting cords. Many people cut cords, to sever the connection on an energetic level to an event or person, but I have never liked it, it always felt wrong. Now I know why!
Cutting cords is NOT the way to go about this! Neither can you release the energy that attaches you to others, or to events. The release happens, but from the other end.
You don’t release yourself from the energy; you release the energy from you.
There is a significant difference and I will try and explain.
Let’s use a past relationship as an example. Any relationship (or event) is not a one-way flow of energy, but a two-way dialogue, like a stream of data. It forms a connection between two people and the energy of both mingles together, creating a new set of data or energy that is the relationship. The relationship is something new, a recipe of parts.
When people go their own way, some of their energy remains locked into that relationship, and so locked into the other person. You leave part of yourself behind. This can be seen in the negative feelings that occur on breaking up, feelings of loss, gaping holes in the stomach or chest, yearning for something. These are not just imagined; they are the physical feelings of missing energy.
In time they can be filled, but sometimes they remain, especially where grief is concerned. The longer these energetic wounds are open, the longer you suffer the emotional heartache, as well as creating new negative perceptions of the other person. But all of this is a symptom of energy that is missing, that you have left behind. Nothing more.
Now, cutting cords at this point causes a problem. You not only cut off the other person’s energy, you also cut off some of your own! And at the same time, you hang onto energy that doesn’t belong to you! Do you see? Imagine the relationship energy is within a container. You walk away from that energy, and most of your energy goes with you (just how much depends how much of yourself you put into the relationship). But the energy that is shaping that relationship container, the energy that you put in, remains. If you cut chords, you leave some of yourself behind. You may feel an initial lightening, but symptoms of energy loss will remain, and those wounds may heal on the surface, but the hole will still be there. This hole will create problems when you start a new relationship.
You know those bounce back relationships people have? That is a direct result of one of these holes that they are desperately trying to fill. And even if you wait awhile before diving in again, most people will look for the energy they need to fill this hole, in another person. Not the best way to start any relationship…but a great way to further muddle up your energy system!
Any energy that you have drawn into yourself, through that relationship bubble remains there, even though it isn’t yours. In the Magical Community of I, this energy would become a character with its own way of doing something, a way of speaking, a belief system, a judgement, a criticism, that isn’t part of who you are. You have no business owning that, and it certainly won’t help you in any way.
This happens a lot in childhood!
Any energy wants to go back to its source, so it will keep appearing to be released. If you ignore it, it will shout louder. Eventually, if you cannot recognise that it is not yours and find a way to release it, it will cause emotional, mental and physical issues. You lose track of who you are, why you are here, and end up a jumbled mess of energy. Think about how many relationships you have in a lifetime, platonic, romantic, familial. No wonder we all have issues!
Perhaps when humanity first learnt about cutting cords, they knew these things, and perhaps the information has been forgotten or simplified over time. But the way most people go about doing this does not work on the level it needs to.
Instead what needs to be done is more akin to soul retrieval. We need to withdraw our energy from the relationship entity that was formed, and so from the other person, bringing it back to us, allowing for us to feel brighter, lighter, and fulfilled. This is empowering! This is just what you need when separating from someone. As your energy refills itself, there is no room for the energy that isn’t yours and it is naturally released from your system.
You need your energy back! And so does the other person!
It might be wiser to not give away quite so much of ourselves in the first place, and once you understand this energy exchange, you will find that you gain awareness of how and when you leave energy behind, making it easier to put a stop to it before you feel the effects. And each time you retrieve your energy, you will realise how much better you feel and be more protective of it in future!
Let me be clear that this doesn’t make you a less loving person. If anything, it increases the flow of love in your system. But instead of forcing your love onto another, which many of us are guilty of, you radiate love instead, which is better for you, and better for everyone around you.
It was also shown to me, in this ‘download’ how this benefits the other person. When you withdraw your energy back into you, you stop the communication of data. It is like staying quiet in an argument. You are not breaking someone off in mid-sentence (something that creates more conflict), but instead you are keeping your words to yourself, which, in the case of an argument, gives the other person nothing to argue with. From an energy perspective, you are not clouding someone else’s energy field with your own colours and perspectives, words and thoughts. Instead you give them the gift of clarity and allow them to see life, and you, from an uncluttered perspective.
This is what letting go means, bringing your energy home from wherever you have left it, detaching at the other end by not being around anymore to continue the conversation, rather than cutting off the conversation in mid flow.
When you start thinking about all the places you have left energy, even if they were just ideas or thought processes, you can use this method in so many ways. And as you fill your energetic cup back up, and become stronger, life changes!