Change is a necessary part of life.
Look at it this way. If you have a goldfish bowl with a small fish in it and never change its water, the water grows cloudy, full of all the excrement from the fish and its food, the oxygen depletes and the fish grows sick. Life is exactly like that. If you resist change you keep yourself in that bowl of dirty water, depleted in oxygen. You become depressed, frustrated, get physical conditions that mirror the emotions. You are cutting off your oxygen supply and putting a stop to life.
So take a moment to stop and think. Are you sitting in that bowl of foul water? Or are you swimming strongly down an energy charged river of life? And which would you prefer?
Often when we have been in that bowl for too long the thought of the river is frightening. It is all too fast, we don’t have the energy to deal with it, it rocks our perception of security. And where is the control? That river has whirlpools, fast currents and is sooo deep! We may sink at any time. At least in the goldfish bowl we know our boundaries and we know exactly where we are.
So how do we change such mentality? Logically we can see that the goldfish bowl is dragging us under, slowly killing us, yet the river is even more menacing. And there is that problem of not having the energy to actually do anything about the situation. Of course that lack of energy is a direct result of that stagnant, oxygen depleted water that we are sitting in. It seems like a vicious circle.
So let’s look at change. I remember a day, only a couple of years ago when I had one of those light-bulb moments. I had kept drawing Oracle cards for myself that kept telling me to let go of the old and embrace the new, to allow change into my life. I did not understand what they were talking about and asking more questions got me nowhere. I had let go of so much of the past, inside and out and I couldn’t see what else there was to release. And then one day, when I felt deflated by yet another of these cards, and basically sat in a pile on the floor and told my guides I had no idea what they were talking about and perhaps I was no good at this oracle card business anyway, it came to me. I was looking for the big things, when in fact the change was very small. It was so small that it took me by surprise. The change I needed to embrace was to love myself, for who I was. I had to let go of the idea that I wasn’t good enough, that there were others out there far better at doing what I did. I had to learn that I was the only ME in the world and nobody could be ME better than I could!
Such a tiny change in perception, but not an easy one. It has been an ongoing process, and I still have times where I come across things that I haven’t brought into line with this change. But that’s OK, because these things take time. And this change has brought about other changes in my perception, effortlessly. Also I can breathe again, I have stepped back into the rivers flow, and it is not a scary place to be at all. Instead it is nurturing, supportive, cleansing. The rapids come and go, but I KNOW I will survive them, because that is what I am MEANT to do! The rapids teach me something new and now I look at them with curiosity and a mix of trepidation and exhilaration, instead of fear. Without that Self-love I couldn’t do that.
So instead of looking at all the big things that you know need changing in your life, try instead starting small. Try looking at how, one small change in your perception of yourself can have a knock on effect on the rest of your life. How that one small thing can smash the sides of that bowl and allow you to trickle slowly back into the rivers flow.